Most of us ladies normally find ourselves in a fix after a
break up. You cry yourself to sleep every night, gaining a lot of pounds on
those ice creams and chocolates as well as constantly checking them up on the
social media. Well that needs to stop because if you want your ex back, none of
those things are going to help you get him back in fact the next time he sees
you with those extra pounds he will thank his lucky stars for helping him make
the right choice.
First of all you need to know what caused the break-up in the
first place. Don’t try to point a finger at him because a break-up is never
really one sided, you have played your part in the break-up and the first thing
you need to do before anything else is accept that. We give many reasons for
our break-ups among them being ; ‘We just grew apart’ or ‘We could never stop
fighting’ or ‘He was too insecure’ and if your break-up was because of any of
those reasons then you probably threw away a relationship away because of
nothing. No relationship is perfect; do you think Romeo and Juliet did not have
their ups and downs…??? Of course they did but because love overcomes all they
managed through it all because of their love for each other (Well of course excluding
the sad ending where they both died). If you really love someone you must be
able to accept them for whatever they are. Before you contact him or anything,
you need to go back to those small, annoying habits he had that made you mad
and think if you could overlook them if he came back, if your answer is no,
then forget about the make-up because those are the very same things that are
going to break you up again.
Secondly you need you need to let go. Do NOT and I repeat do
not hold any grudge against him. It will show him just how much of a civilised
person you are. Greet him, call him and check on him and do not ignore his
friends because of something that happened between the two of you. Remember
that you are not together anymore so try as much as you can not to be clingy as
he will smell your desperation miles away. Be a friend not a clingy puppet. If
you really want him back that much, you need to forget his past mistakes and
move on because if you do not, honey you will be chasing him again in a week.
No guy wants to be reminded every time he does something wrong of what a jerk
he once was.
We tend to get over-comfortable when we finally find that
person who completes us, the person you can really be you around. You can be
yourself as much as you can but when it leads to you being unattractive and
sloppy around him, it might be a bit too much. This will be your chance to
prove to him that you still have it in you. Be a bit outgoing; get yourself a
new wardrobe, new hair and a new body. You can finally lose those pounds you
have been meaning to lose. Use him as your motivation and you will see
everything go in place. Surround yourself with friends, be happy and go to as
many outings as you can and believe me he will come back to you.
With those few tips, he is guaranteed to come back to you but
if he does not, then he was never yours in the first place. Now go and get
dolled up and steal his heart girlie. Good Luck
